The Fundamental Choice of the Human: Suffering or Enlightenment
Humans are in such an interesting position, we are instinctual creatures of the Earth yearning for safety and security, with high powered minds that can conceptualize life beyond what is directly in front of us and our bodies house a Soul that feels neutral and timeless.
The interplay of these 3 primary aspects create either unyielding chaos or enlightenment. That IS our possibility here. There is enough tension in our Earth life to push us to either be in a constant state of survival or to look to our interior for something more sacred, some kind of meaning and purpose.
Two things have been consistent throughout human history, suffering and transcendence. Our instinctual drive to survive, coupled with a limited mind will always make this an outward journey but when we wake up inside we see that it is, in fact, an inward one.
So what does a life lived from an interior look like? The #1 characteristic that I see is a lack of blame and instead in it's place a commitment to one's responsibility for the quality of one's life. From victimhood and the expectations of accommodations to self esteem that is only generated from within.
Why is this so difficult? Remaining a victim is extremely popular because it affords people the excuse for immature behaviors, it keeps people from having to be fully accountable for their own reactions, addictions and behaviors. Said from the mouth of a victim, " you would (yell, react, drink, eat, hide, eat, avoid etc... too if you had my childhood!"
But the Truth is, no one gets a pass just because somewhere in their history they had it rough, understanding and compassion yes, but not a pass. The clinical word for that is codependence and treating someone this way, or ourselves this way, where we emphasize our wounds rather than our strengths is damaging. While there is absolutely a time and space for processing, releasing and integrating trauma, imagine a world where we more often emphasized a person's strengths and helped them walk through their difficult experiences rather than constantly reaffirming their weaknesses and accommodating their wounds through our actions.
Emphasizing the strengths in ourselves and in others shifts us out of the constant instinctual drive for security and safety and brings us into the present. It generates self esteem and curiosity and a longing to then find meaning and purpose. This is journey beyond the instincts, beyond the mind and into the Soul, a journey that is only one direction...into our interior.