While we are on the topic... I really like how straight forward this website page is. I'm not crazy about all the underlining but the words ring true.
Adult survivors of child abuse are often still being manipulated and controlled by their abusive parents. Healing can be confusing since now as an adult, we believe we are no longer being harmed but this is not the case. Adults who abuse children need years of retraining their behavior and years healing their own deep wounds. If your parent hasn't done this yet, then chances are they are still toxic.
Love is loving action. It's important as adults to establish boundaries with abusive parents so that our child selves can feel safe enough to heal.